{"id":180,"date":"2011-02-16T09:43:56","date_gmt":"2011-02-16T14:43:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/successrefresh.com\/?p=180"},"modified":"2011-02-16T09:43:56","modified_gmt":"2011-02-16T14:43:56","slug":"3-ways-leaders-can-discipline-bad-behaviour-with-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/leesabarnes.com\/blog\/3-ways-leaders-can-discipline-bad-behaviour-with-love\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Ways Leaders Can Discipline Bad Behaviour With Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Bev Oda is a Member of Parliament<\/a> for the Conservative Party of Canada<\/a>. The Conservatives, led by Stephen Harper<\/a>, are the ruling party in Canada.<\/p>\n

Bev is a politician and no one really cared about Bev until earlier this week when she admitted she lied.<\/p>\n

Well, she didn’t really come right out and say “I lied,” but she did.<\/p>\n

The issue? An altered memo.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

The Canadian International Development Agency (CIDA) sent a memo to 3 people seeking approval for a grant to be given to KAIROS<\/a>, a faith based organization.<\/p>\n

The word “not” was inserted in between the words “you” and “approve” in the following sentence on the memo:<\/p>\n

RECOMMENDATION: That you sign below to indicate you approve a contribution of $7,098,758 over 4 years for the above program. (click here to see the imag<\/a>e of the altered memo)<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I’m not clear if the word “not” was inserted after the all signatures were on the memo, but what is clear is that Bev denied inserting the word for close to a year.<\/p>\n

Then, she admitted she did.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

To add insult to injury, Prime Minister Stephen Harper is backing her. He chose his words very carefully. He didn’t say “She lied, she was wrong for that, but as a government, we support her decision.”<\/p>\n

According to the Globe & Mail<\/a>, our Prime Minister said the following in the House of Commons on Tuesday:<\/p>\n

“It is a decision of the minister to make sure that taxpayers\u2019 dollars are used effectively for foreign aid and that is what she has done.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Wow! What a terrible example of leadership. Bev lied and yet, Stephen supports her bad behaviour.<\/p>\n

As a leader, Stephen is in a unique opportunity to show Bev love while disciplining her bad behaviour. That she added the word “not” to a memo isn’t the issue. The issue is that after denying doing so for a year, Bev finally came clean. And now, the leader of our country is ignoring the lie by being wishy washy in his response.<\/p>\n

I believe Stephen could save face if he were to follow these 4 simple tips on how to discipline bad behaviour in a loving way:<\/p>\n

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  1. First, remind Bev about the party’s code of conduct<\/strong>. I couldn’t find one on the party website<\/a>, but I’m sure there is something that all MPs swear by in order to uphold their office in an ethical way. This also gives Stephen a chance to speak privately to Bev about his disappointment in her conduct and helps him to restate his own boundaries about lying and dishonesty.<\/li>\n
  2. Ask Bev how this problem can be fixed<\/strong>. Inviting the transgressor to be a partner in their own punishment helps Stephen figure out if Bev really thinks this is a serious matter. If she says that her budget should be decreased, Stephen will know that Bev is trying to blow this off. This is a great opportunity for Stephen to coach her on choosing a punishment that fits the crime. In my opinion, nothing less than an apology and resignation from her ministry (not from the party) would work.<\/li>\n
  3. Next, publicly pinpoint the transgression, then assure the public that you’re dealing with it<\/strong>. Because Bev “sinned” in such a public way, Stephen will have to address the “sin” publicly. Because he already had a conversation with Bev, he simply needs to state this and that he and Bev are working on a solution. He should not apologize on behalf of Bev as he needs to pass off this duty to Bev. The reason? Bev, too, is a leader and needs to be the one to apologize on behalf of herself.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    As Sumner Musolf<\/a> shared on last night’s #leadershipchat on Twitter<\/a>:<\/p>\n

    “Loving in business is empowering, entrusting, and positively influencing someone’s professional experience.”<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

    And Gavin Heaton<\/a> adds:<\/p>\n

    “Surely a leader’s job is to help others get onto the bus, not push them under it.”<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

    How would you recommend Prime Minister Stephen Harper deal with Bev Oda on this matter? Leave your comments below.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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